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Mommy Talk
June 2009
Wednesday June 24, 2009
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 12:42PM CST on June 24, 2009
Henry has lost all rights to balls in the house.
The other day he picked up a block and chucked it at me. It hit me between the eyes. I had a bump for a few hours. When he was really little (and uncoordinated and relatively weak) it was funny to see him try to throw a ball. He'd put all this effort into it, and the thing would go maybe 12 inches. Now, he can throw a tennis ball across the room. No accuracy, but he's got oomph. He can do the same with a baseball, and a rubber ball, and a tennis ball. And, apparently, a block, as I so painfully discovered. He didn't know what he was doing, and definitely didn't know it would hurt. He just thinks throwing is fun, and blocks are fun, so, logically, throwing a block would be even more fun.I don't think I can still buy that explanation when he hits me. As far as I know, I'm the only target of his slapping. He likes to do it most when I'm carrying him to get his diaper changed or put him to bed. He takes his little hands, pulls them back and then slaps them, hard, into my cheeks. I can't intercept them because I'm carrying him. My early, very stern No's were met with giggles and more hitting. The last time he did it, my "No!" made him cry, which was a better reaction than the laughter. He's a bit too young for time outs to be very effective, though they do give him a much-needed short break from the activity. Ultimately, I'd like to figure out why he's doing it. It seems to come around most when it's time for a diaper change... maybe it's time for potty training.Friday June 19, 2009
Posted by: mlaehr at 5:33PM CST on June 19, 2009
Ahhhh, summer. The smell of fresh cut grass through the open windows. The sparkle of the spray coming from a garden hose, arched over bright flower beds. Watermelon juice dripping down your chin. Warm nights for roasting marshmallows over the fire pit. I love summer. And my kids make me love it even more. Their digging up dirt in the backyard to find worms, swinging into the cloudless sky, running back and forth with the kids next door, racing off on bikes and big wheels, and screaming as they jump through the sprinkler, is what the best summers are made of. I often catch myself reliving my own childhood summers through their warm weather adventures. Except now I’m the panicked mom standing at the bottom of the ladder as my 2-year-old gleefully climbs up herself to go down the slide. And I’m the mom hollering out the back door for the boys to come wash their hands for supper. And I’m the mom supplying the popsicles, and bandaging knees after a fall from a bike. But I remember being the girl who rode her banana seat Schwinn around the block at top speed with the group of friends from my West Racine neighborhood. I remember underwater breath-holding contests in the metal frame above ground pool at one friend’s, and digging in the backyard sandbox of another. I’ll never forget how good a snowcone tasted when I was actually able to convince my parents to give me some change to buy one from the ice cream truck. What is better than summer, especially for those of us who live in Wisconsin? I think we appreciate the season more than most, simply because it is fleeting. We might have fun building snowmen and sipping hot chocolate in the middle of Janurary, but come March, most of us are gritting our teeth and preparing to endure another two months of winter. I know I start dreaming of wearing flip flops and online swimsuit perusing towards the beginning of April. And my kids? I wrote about their cabin fever earlier this year. They’ve been impatiently waiting for weeks now for it to get warm enough for the sprinkler. Friday afternoon, when the storm clouds started to clear and the sun began to peek through, my boys celebrated the nearly 80 degree weather with a water gun fight. Even I came away with a drenched T-shirt. Last week we took our first of many trips to the Racine Zoo. While we were walking near the giraffe exhibit, something clunked me on the back of the head. “What was that?” I said turning around. My husband and kids stood there looking at me incredulously, and then began to laugh. “It was a bird,” my husband said. “A big, black bird just landed on your head!” “Did it poop on me?” I screeched, turning my head trying to see my own back. It didn’t, thank God! And so it became another hilarious summer memory to file away for a rainy or snowy or just plain dreary, cold day when the summer sun isn’t shining, and we need another reason to smile.
Friday June 12, 2009
Posted by: Mike Moore at 7:19PM CST on June 12, 2009
Every time the nursing assistant at the clinic updates our son’s height, I feel like stepping out to trash-talk the other parents in the waiting room. Something like, "It must be seafood night, because all of you brought shrimps! Woo-hoo, 90th percentile, baby!" I’m not proud of this attitude. I promised to avoid becoming one of those ultra-competitive parents to Sean. You know the ones. They browbeat Junior if he’s not playing the cello internationally by age 3. Or they file a lawsuit, arguing that his path to the Ivy League will be forever blocked if he isn’t allowed into the prestigious preschool. Luckily this parenting thing is a long-term gig, so there’s time to change. Scrooge did it. The first step is to give up the baby books. Stupid baby books, they’re the root cause of this competition. Seth Rogen’s character was right in "Knocked Up" when he jokingly asked his pregnant girlfriend how ancient peoples raised countless generations of kids without those "What To Expect" volumes. They lay out what skills kids should master by certain ages. My guy-hood will likely be put on probation for reading them at all, but, with zero prior exposure to toddlers, I use the books as a briefing for each month’s mission. Before them, of course, parents could weigh their little ones’ progress against kids of neighbors, friends or relatives. Except the sample size was small, so even if Junior was skinnier or less chatty than the rest, you could write it off because the others were probably high-achievers. In the parental handbook era, you know exactly what children Junior’s age should be doing. How? Forty-seven pediatricians who study the topic 24/7 tell you at the beginning of each chapter. It’s always worded delicately so parents don’t get stressed. The blurb will say, "Really, it’s probably perfectly normal for your son or daughter to sleep in a crib as a sophomore in high school. But you should check with your doctor in the teensy, weensy chance that he or she is a complete freakazoid." Even if those are lies, they’re comforting ones. If Sean lags behind the curve in something, like his vocabulary, well, it isn’t our fault. The book says each kid develops differently. It’s different if Sean is ahead of the curve — he was an early walker, for example. Then it’s because he’s brilliant. And that’s obviously due to our first-class genes. This, I have come to realize, is called rationalizing. See? I’m cured. You can read all about the transformation in my upcoming memoir, "What To Expect When Your Kid Is Shorter Than Mine." Monday June 8, 2009
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 12:36PM CST on June 8, 2009
“Da Whee-oo, da whee-oo, da whee-oos “Round-ee-round” This is the refrain of the car. “Da Whee-oo, da whee-oo, da whee-oos “Round-ee-round” Travel is filled with a duet version of this song. Henry starts: “Da whee-oos” I continue: “On the bus go” He picks up again: “Round-ee-round” Me again: “Round and round, round and round” Henry: “Da whee-oos” Me: “On the bus go” Henry: “Round-ee-round” Me: “All through the town” Henry: “Yay!” Wheel (or whee-oo) was one of Henry’s first words. “The Wheels on the Bus” is his favorite song. Over the past few months he’s learned a few more songs. This is another one of my favorites: “Tink-oo, tink-oo i-ya tar “Ow-eye un-ner ar “Up-a eye “Di-mon kiy” That’s his version of “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.” He spent a weekend with my parents and came home singing “No-me no-me,” in a very specific melody. I asked my mom if he’d done that while he was with them. She said he hadn’t. For nearly a week I heard that four-syllable song continuously. When we went to visit some friends I figured out what it was: Baby Henry’s interpretation of the end of the alphabet song. There’s something almost magical about this verbal discovery phase. Every day he learns what name belongs to a thing, a person, an action. He names everything he sees. He tries out new words and concepts. For a while, everything was yellow. Every car is a green car. Anything in the sky was the moon. This baby singing is exploration of a different type. It’s Henry putting a sound track to his life, and ours. He loves to listen to music, loves to play with the piano and the guitar. I wonder if this is how my parents felt, when I was fascinated with a little electronic keyboard as a child. A few years later, when I was in second grade, they bought a piano. It was magical to have this huge instrument in the living room, and to learn how to make music come out of it. I wasn’t the greatest piano student as a child, but I always loved to play. I still do. Some of my favorite nights have been those spent with husband Scott on the guitar, me on piano and both of us singing like crazy to Beatles tunes. I need to take a few bucks and buy a book of kids’ music, so we know the chord changes and notes to the songs he loves to sing. It seems like a quaint, old-fashioned thing: the family sing-along, with mom at the piano and kids gathered around. That’s a tradition that’s worth reviving. While my parents never had sing-alongs at the piano, we sang along with them to the Traveling Wilburys, Stevie Winwood and Van Morrison that my father loved. Someday, Henry will learn the magic of the record player and play some of the albums we have: Sly and the Family Stone, The Beatles, the “Goonies” sound track. I loved music, and I loved exploring my parents’ music collection. Henry’s too young to do that on his own, but his musical experiments are letting me have that experience again. Instead of poring over my parents’ albums — what does Steely Dan sound like anyway? — I’m listening to Henry discover melody and rhythm. Whenever he starts singing, I listen. He mispronounces words, gets lost in the middle and meanders around, making up his own baby lyrics, but I can always tell when he’s done. Henry finishes every song with “Yay!” |
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