April 2009
Friday April 24, 2009
Look what I did!
Posted by: mlaehr at 1:02PM CST on April 24, 2009

My children are very good at surprising me with what they are able to do, especially when left to their own devices.

Most parents remember their baby’s first time rolling over, first steps, first real sentence. Those are definitely some of the best awe-inspiring moments. It’s when we realize that our children are growing, learning, becoming stronger and older.

But who knew the awe would continue?

I’ve also learned that while I might be amazed by what my kids are able to do, it doesn’t always mean I’m happy with what they’ve done. More times than not, I discover their latest feat and think, "Whose children do this sort of thing?"

Mine apparently.

During the recent spring break, I woke up to find my 5 and 7-year-old boys playing in their basement playroom quietly. I was happy. The baby and my husband were still sleeping, the boys were occupied and I could head to the shower uninterrupted.

About 30 minutes later my sons walked upstairs carrying the phone book and phone. The youngest proudly turned to a page in the phone book and said, "I called and tried to order a pizza from here, but the lady said they don’t make them until 10:30."

HUH??!!

Apparently what I thought was quiet play was the two of them making sneaky phone calls to nearly every pizzeria in Racine trying to get someone to deliver a cheese pizza at 7 a.m. They even had it planned to use the $20 their little sister had gotten in her Easter candy from her Nana to pay for it!

I was mad, but in a disturbed kind of way, I was also kind of proud.

Who knew they were smart enough to use the phone book properly?

There was the time when my oldest was 2. I had put him up to bed for a nap. About 30 minutes later I heard him playing. I walked up the stairs and found him COMPLETELY covered in Desitin. I mean, head to toe white, creamy, almost impossible to wash off without soap, water and a washcloth, covered.

Who knew he was resourceful enough to grab a little chair, climb up and open the cabinet in his room where I kept the diapers, wipes and butt cream?

On a relaxing weekend a few years ago, I was sitting on the couch reading a book while the boys were quietly coloring at the nearby kitchen table. I’d peer up at them every now and then to make sure they were still there, but they seemed quite content. And truthfully, I was all too happy to become engrossed in my book.

After about 45 minutes had passed, I got up. That’s when I saw exactly what they had been coloring: themselves.

"Don’t I look like the Green Goblin?" my younger son asked.

Both his arms, from elbow to fingertips had been colored with a bright green marker.

"And I’m Spider-Man," the oldest said, lifting his shirt to reveal the spiderweb he had drawn in black marker on his chest. He had only one red and blue arm finished.

Who knew they were that creative?

Then there was the Saturday about a year ago when I walked into my bathroom and found my 4-year-old standing at the sink counter with a bright red bottle of nail polish open. In one hand was the brush. The other hand was dripping with red polish.

"I just wanted to try your poe nolish," he said.

Who knew ... OK, sometimes it’s just plain naughty behavior. There’s really no upside to red nail polish on a little boy and all over a bathroom counter.

Except that it becomes a funny story after the frustration and anger of the moment is over, the mess has been cleaned up, and no one has had to be rushed to the emergency room.

And every once in a while, my kids will surprise me in a way that makes me feel truly proud:

Like when I catch my boys snuggling together on the couch, or when the woman in charge of their Wednesday night church club tells me how polite and well-behaved they are, or when I discovered that my daughter is the first of my children to have inherited my neat gene.

"I spilled," she told me one morning as she sat in her highchair drinking some water. "Mommy, towel please?" she asked.

I handed her a kitchen towel. She soaked up the few drops of water that had fallen in her lap and handed the towel back to me. "Dant do Mommy."


Tuesday April 21, 2009
Exercise for expectant moms?
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 10:33AM CST on April 21, 2009

I got the following e-mail from a Mommy Talk reader.

I was wondering if you knew of any prenatal exercise classes offered in Racine?  All I’ve been able to find are exercise classes that will allow pregnant women to attend, but none specifically designed for pregnant women.  It would be nice to network with other mom-to-be’s in Racine and get some exercise in at the same time!

I don't know of any exercise classes for pregnant women. Do any of you?

 


Monday April 20, 2009
Gone, baby, gone
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 9:07AM CST on April 20, 2009
Henry was a late crawler.

He learned to belly crawl at nine months and wasn’t up on all fours until he was more than a year old.

Now, the little guy is proving to be a late walker. He’s 17 months old, and refuses to take steps on his own. With one hand lightly touching the furniture he cruises around the house.

There isn’t anywhere he can’t get to now. A week ago he was doing laps around the Asian Buffet, holding one of my fingers and joyfully crying “Go, go, go!” because he wanted to go faster. He walked to the car, holding one finger. He walked to the house, holding one finger.

Holding one finger, he’ll go anywhere. Remove that finger, and he drops to his knees and keeps going, shuffling along, sturdy and stable, and destroying the knees of his pants.

I’m anxious for him to take his first, real, self-motivated steps. I want to see him toddle off on his own. I’m getting tired of toting him in along with the groceries when we come back from the store.

While Henry’s holding back on his first steps, he’s a daredevil in other ways. He loves slides and swings and going fast. He has climbed child-size picnic tables, and loves to climb stairs. When he wants to go down, he wants to go head first.

Walking to the house, laden with baby and briefcase and lunch bag, I yearn for the days when he will walk on his own.

Watching him stand on the bench of the kiddie picnic table or hearing about his stair-climbing escapades, my heart stops for a moment.

This kid’s not going to walk; he’s going to run.

One day, I’ll set him on the ground, expecting him to cling to my legs, and he’s going to let go, take one step away and be off. I know that crawling is one of the last things that ties this toddler to his baby days.

He’s talking more than ever. Each day he seems to learn a new word.

We still get glimpses of baby babble, with his nonsensical, foreign-sounding dialect pouring out into silence.

When he listens to us talking now he nods his head. Yes, yes, yes, like he’s seriously considering our points of view. Yes, Mommy, I’ll use the spoon. Oh, that sounds like a tough day you had, his bobbling-head seems to say.

In those moments, he seems so grown-up.

We had grandma cut off his baby curls last Sunday.

The tiny, wispy curls were long enough in the back to reach his collar. When we’d take off his hat, all this super-fine baby hair would stick up in a little nest in the back of his head. So, holding him on my lap, she took a scissors to his hair.

Snip, snip, snip.

There goes the baby curls.

Step, step, step.

There goes the baby crawls.

There goes the baby.

Friday April 10, 2009
No Batman movie, no joking
Posted by: mlaehr at 4:14PM CST on April 10, 2009

Five minutes.

That’s all it took.

My boys were at my parents’ house for five minutes before they had rented the Batman movie, “The Dark Knight,” off the video rentals list on my parents’ TV.

It was a Friday and they were off school. The baby was sick and I had to work. I asked my parents if they would watch my children so I wouldn’t have to bring them to the regular babysitter where my daughter might infect the other kids.

My parents happily agreed, and how did my children pay them back?

After dropping the kids off and driving away, I made it maybe three blocks when my cell rang.

“They rented Batman off my TV!” my mother said.

“Batman, The Dark Knight?” I asked.

“Yes,” she said.

“Absolutely not,” I told her. “They can’t watch that show. And they know it!”

“Turn that off,” I heard her tell the boys, which was, of course, followed by screams of protest.

Later I told my sons they would have to pay for the movie they weren’t allowed to watch out of their piggy banks.

And just about every day I’m still asked by one of them if they can watch the Batman movie, which is rated PG-13.

“Can I see it when I’m 8?” my 7-year-old asks.

“No.”

“How about when I’m 12?”

“No.”

“Jacob got to watch it.”

“I’m not Jacob’s mother.”

My husband and I had both been told – and later watched the movie ourselves – that it’s really scary and violent.

So why are there Dark Knight costumes in a boys size 5T? Why are there little Dark Knight backpacks, slippers, T-shirts, and action figures?

I guess what I want to know is, why do they market this stuff to my kids, who shouldn’t watch the movie?

And it’s not just this Batman movie; it was Spider-Man 3, Transformers, The Hulk, Fantastic Four and Superman Returns. Now I won’t lie, we’ve let our 5 and 7 year old boys watch some of these. We even took them to see “Spider-Man 3” in the theater.

But we learned our lesson. About two weeks after they watched the movie, they started to use the “a” word. I couldn’t figure out for the life of me where they had heard it.

Then, while watching Spider-Man 3 when it came out on DVD, I heard the guy who plays Harry say it - in EXACTLY the same way my boys were.

Great. There’s no rewind option on real life.

I once wondered out loud in the newsroom, why they even make these movies. Why make a Spider-Man movie that’s only appropriate for teens and up to see when all the elementary school age boys are going to want to see it too?

A co-worker who is comic book and action figure collector said these types of movies are really made for guys like him.

Right. That’s why you see sooooo many pairs of men’s Dark Knight boxer briefs and lounge pants and golf club covers when you peruse the aisles at Target.

I’m not a gung-ho violent TV begets violence kind of mom. But I do believe it influences how kids play, and it’s a parent’s job to monitor what they’re watching and what they’re playing. For example, when my boys were in their “Chronicles of Narnia” stage, I caught my 7-year-old wielding a REAL kitchen knife like a sword — at his brother!

It was really too bad when that movie got accidentally erased from the DVR.

My big pretenders sometimes don’t know how to separate reality from pretend, so I have to limit what they watch.

No you can’t watch “The Dark Knight,” I tell them.

Instead we let them have a Dark Knight costume, a Dark Knight T-shirt, a Dark Knight back pack ... 

 


Thursday April 9, 2009
What advice would you give a new mom?
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 9:07AM CST on April 9, 2009
I've got cousins and friends who are having their first babies, and it reminds me of how little I really knew about what it was going to be like to have that baby at home with me.

I got all kinds of advice from people before Henry was born -- some helpful, some not.

Now that I've got my own experience to build on, I have my own mommy tips that I can pass along. Here's some of what I learned:

If you're going to cloth-diaper, get a diaper service to start with. 80 diapers a week sounds like a lot, but you'll need them, and you really won't want to wash them all yourself. You'll be doing enough regular laundry as it is.

Cloth diapers make great burp rags, especially if you've got a baby that likes to spit up.

Invest in a good baby carrier that's comfortable for you and your parenting partner to use. Look for one with an upper weight limit of at least 20 pounds. Carrying a 9-month-old that weighs 18 pounds is tough.

Come up with a shared night-time duty schedule early, and revise often.

Ask visitors to bring you food or necessities when they come to see you and the baby.

What advice would you give to a new mom?

 

 


Thursday April 2, 2009
How did you know your baby was no longer a baby?
Posted by: Janine Anderson at 1:20PM CST on April 2, 2009
It seems like every day Henry is less a baby and more a little boy.

He talks. (boy)

He still crawls. (baby)

He feeds himself. (boy)

He drinks from a bottle. (baby)

When did you declare that your child was more toddler than baby? What things had he or she learned to do?



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